I actually cried when I saw this article. I felt so misunderstood all my life, had no answer for I know I need to apply for jobs but I can’t do it.

Need to get evaluated and then screening test of ADD gave me 1930 and ASRS gave 99.5 percentile. I had so many constant injuries as a child even as an adult.

Time optimism – I haven’t heard this expression before but I feel it captures really accurately what I’m struggling with as well.
This little nuisance makes me, too, feel like I constantly over-promise and under-deliver. And the more I stress about it, the worse I perform – a vicious circle that’s often so hard to break.

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I have adhd, whenever a meltdown happens i generally cope whit it alone, ill’be it sometimes violently like hitting pillows or something like that but generally I tend to hide it from others or if I can’t hide it because I am in public it’s more shut in or reserved, shure it may be odd to look at me because i may be scratching my hands impulsively while breathing shallowly or looking around whit wide eyes (expecially in crowds). I too have had episodes similar to what you described happens to your partner but they were very specific (example= having to work in a group but no one wants to begin or be lazy or straight up not work). For me these rare meltdowns were really and i mean relly hard to control, and sometimes i would excuse myself and go in the bathroom to take deep breaths and wash my face or something. But the key is to take accountability, one must recognise that they need help, that they need to realize this is a flaw we have and most importantly swallow our pride and say: it’s not an excuse (at least not always). If he has other diagnosis that relate to violent behavior i suggest you look into how they can be helped whit, but again, if he doesn’t want to realize it’s a problem then theres little you can do. Maybe (IF you haven’t already) try to comunicate whit him and tell him that this is hurting you too. (geez sorry for writing somutch…)

I recently learned this is a separate phenomenon called “time optimism”. I used to think those challenges fell under time blindness, but it’s actually slightly different.

Time optimism specifically refers to the inability to accurately estimate the amount of time necessary to complete a task and/or the amount of time one has available for a task, versus time blindness being the inability to accurately perceive the passage of time, especially when one is super engrossed in a task (hyperfixation).

It’s very interesting, and very frustrating, the layers to ADHD that a layperson, and even many of us diagnosed, are simply unaware of, as the consequences of these manifestations severely hinder us, and often have us seen as careless, unreliable, lazy, and irresponsible- often times even by ourselves.

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thank you Kristie. this comment opened my eyes to a new path forward. I’ve been in ADHD hell for as long as I can remember, getting worse gradually, over the past maybe 10 years. I’m 49 now, and have become almost completely paralyzed with anxiety, depression, and severe ADHD symptoms. I’ve taken several different kinds of anti depressants but never have I thought about looking for a doctor tailored to my ADHD flavor of this. thank you so much. it’s difficult finding the proper care where I live in Seattle, wa. I don’t have a regular doctor and rely on Medicaid. if you know of anything in my area pls let me know 🙂. a longshot for sure but worth the ask. thanks again

this is happening to me right now. it gets worse the longer I wait to deal with it; whatever “it” may be. how are you dealing with everything? I’m new to this self discovery

Hi Troy, you shouldn’t be having these difficulties getting meds. I’m sorry to hear of your struggles. Like someone else said, you SHOULDN’T need a character reference for meds, just a diagnosis. Do you have an official diagnosis? If not, start there with a therapist who specializes in ADHD. I have seen a ton of therapists and tried a ton of SSRI’s and none of it worked because it was not tailored to ADHD. Additionally, I personally have had horrible experiences with psychiatrists but found a psy arnp who specializes in ADHD who manages my meds-including Adderall. She even did labs and a gene map before even prescribing anything. She reinforced the ADHD diagnosis and also tested me for OCD. I can’t stress enough how important it is that you are working with professionals who are experienced with ADHD. Good luck and I hope you can get the help that you deserve!

Rosie, how are you now? I just read your comments
today 9/24/25. I hope you are doing well. I’m praying for you.
Jackie

This is why non-drug options are so important. Coping strategies can be taught.

This is me in a nutshell!!!!

Especially difficult the older I get. I’m in my fifties and I feel like the window for any real progress is going to slam shut never to be opened again.

I actually came to this article for my son, who also has ADHD, but his is worse. I have learned that my telling him what works for me is usually met with objections that I can not overcome (probably simply because I am his mother). So lists like these 1. help him see that he’s not alone and 2. give him hope with yet untried strategies. Even if he only picks up one, his life is that much less difficult, and every little bit helps.

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overall probably good info if you dont know much about ADHD but for someone with even a bit more than basic knowledge this didn’t offer concrete tips for the most part. I did like the idea of the 31 days folds folder system though for me I’ll start with now, soon, and later folders and maybe work toward more fine grained if that helps me

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Thank you for the feedback.  You are correct. Once your amygdala has been “hijacked”, it can be very challenging to stop and count to 10. However, with practice, you can recognize early signs you’re about to “lose it” and quick action can help.  The techniques mentioned in the article can be especially helpful as you learn to recognize when things are about to go off the rails (before they do). For example, I know someone who feels their face and neck getting warm, often before they even recognize that something is upsetting. With practice, they have learned to take a quick break from the situation while taking time to think about what’s really provoking the loss of control. The key is learning to recognize what’s coming and cutting off the hijacking before it happens. Yes, it can take more training and practice, but these exercises are presented as first steps towards that training or additional therapies, where needed. Hope that helps.

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Same…my issue is that I get so exhausted and either overwhelmed mentally/emotionally or bored out of my mind. (Which boredom is terrible because my racing mind goes into hyper speed!!) My problem is that as soon as make that decision to try to rest, I start getting these awful waves of anxiety that kick in right as I’m starting to dose off…it’s SOOO frustrating. I usually just give up and get up and continue to be exhausted either emotionally/mentally or bored to tears🙄🫩😔 Too bad these generic medications aren’t worth a crap anymore therefore hardly make a difference at this point 🤦🏽‍♀️

when I start a task I’m convinced I will complete it in record time, but find myself doing extra side tasks which then puts hours on top of my original time scale in turn making me feel absolutely deflated!!

I am in the same boat you are. My husband was diagnosed adhd decades ago and is on the max dosage. I have been depressed since I was about 13 and have tried half a dozen antidepressants. Currently on Wellbutrin xl 300 and celexa 20. I don’t cry all day or have gloom and doom thoughts or the negative loop playing in my head all day taking those, however, they don’t get me out of the bed unless it is something necessary like a Dr appt or to get dog food etc. when I take half of hubbys pill, I feel motivated. Hopeful, gratefulness comes over me. I want to do gardening and take the boat out. I don’t feel high. I don’t feel amped. My heart rate does sit in 100s for that 5-6 hours but what’s worst, laying in bed with potential for blood clots and atrophy of my muscles and no relationship with my friends or kids/grandkids? My mother is the same way. We cope by sleeping. Always have. I am overwhelmed and feel unsupported with tasks and that causes a shut down. Hubby doesn’t mind giving me money to do things or buy this or that, do upgrades that are overwhelming me such as an old house that needs repair or my body that could use some toning etc. no dr will prescribe me any form of ADHD med. it’s like I’m asking for OxyContin or morphine, I don’t want to get high. I don’t want to br in control of my actions at all times. It pisses me off but life goes on. Wish I had a therapist that could change my chemical wiring by telling me steps and methods but first I have to get out of bed and motivated enough to give a damn first. They don’t get it.

I am beginning to wonder, I looked at the symptoms and realised some of them is me to a T, I just put them down to dyslexia and that my brain is overactive and I have never learnt to switch it off.
I forever losing things or leaving things behind forgetting where I put them (even if it was just a few minutes ago), I am always underestimating how long it takes me to do something, I am only organised if it doesn’t matter, I find it almost impossible to keep my room tidy, I can’t concentrate on boring brain numbing tasks (they take me forever to do because I end up daydreaming, but found listening to music or a audio book helps), I good at making silly little mistakes for no reason (one just cost me my job), I find it hard to me serious, sad when I am feeling happy plus vise-versa and I can get very emotional (I have to wear my emotions on my sleeve).
but I am not hyper active (never have been) perfectly capable of sitting for hours with puzzle books or games or computer games. I can in fact be very lazy.

Dealing with comorbid conditions can be super tricky. You’re right that there’s no ‘one size fits all’ and it can be a matter of trial and error. IAPMD (iapmd.org) offers peer support, which might be helpful because managing PMDD and comorbid mental health issues is a common topic of discussion (and ADHD is a big one).

Researchers have plans to launch a study, possibly as early as this fall, looking at the interaction between daily ADHD and PMDD symptoms in people with both. So, there is hope as work is being done to better understand how they might be managed together.

Sonia, I agree with you about sleeping. It is the only thing that works. It is like self-medicating but at the end of it all, you land into more trouble.

I can relate with this also. I get emotional dysregulation quite often. I get triggered by childhood trauma events and my brain just quits braining! Im currently IN a paralysis situation. A “person” that has insulted and belittled me in the past CALLED ME! When I saw that name on caller ID? My brain checked out!! No message was left. No! I did not answer. Nor did I respond to the call AT ALL.
I just thought THE NERVE !! Then that’s ALL I could think about. And I’ve been in a BRAIN PARALYSIS funk ever since. it’s been 6 days. Crap and chores are piling up.
I missed my Therapy session today. Trying to change settings to DO NOT DISTURB and accidentally cutoff the call I had been on hold for. Now THAT is all I can think about. Im just all jammed up.

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I’m on the same boat. Andrew Huberman has some great advice on how to combat ADHD but it’s lifestyle changes that’s worked for a lot of people, I just haven’t been able to implement them because living in a dorm doesn’t make it easy to stay consistent. you’re best bet is getting medicated, that’s what’s worked for me.

Agree! The motivation and drive to do simple things

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Ditto. Relate completely.

I’m sorry, this sounds so hard. Have you considered a psychiatrist in anoyher country? For example an English speaking psychiatrist in Greece or Poland that can help you and is much more affordable to do it on zoom. There is also ADHD coaching available, many english speaking coaches in other countries much more affordable.

Ty!!!

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Yes I agree

ADHD is not the same for everyone. So to make comparisons is unfair. You may be struggling with things the other person did not have to contend with.

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i agree

Hi Priya,

Ya, I hear you, it is a lot of information! What I usually find helpful when I want to take action is to take whatever feels good to try at the time, like 1-3 ideas, and implement them.

For this particular article, I listened to it twice on my Text To Speech app. I soaked in the information and felt validated by what I’ve already been doing. It acted like a pat on the back to keep going – which helps to boost my mood. Even though I’m not going to try anything new at this point, as that would feel overwhelming and not helpful. I hope sharing my perspective is helpful!

I’m writing more for my contrast. It’s weird, I was most comfortable and happy during the early stages of COVID. Life became easier, I didn’t have to interact with many people, my anxiety diminished and I was much more relaxed. All ‘social’ activities became bike rides or other athletic activities where I didn’t need to have conversations that I would later overanalyze as to why I was such an idiot for what I said and for my constant interjections. My life overall improved those 1st 18 months or so.

Then the ball dropped. Life for everyone else got back to normal. I haven’t been able to go back to the pre-COVID me who was able to fully function and thrive. I’ve destroyed most relationships I had before, my anxiety is through the roof, I’m no longer able to function in social situations. On the positive side, I’ve met a wonderful man in the past year. He’s been a big help, we’ll see where that goes. He keeps telling me he thinks all my idiosyncrasies are great and that they allow me to accomplish so much and tries to keep me positive even when I start to fall apart. No, he’s not perfect, but he really helps.

With a diagnosis, I feel empowered. I’m going to try to find meds that will work/help. I can’t go on the way I’ve been for the past 3+ years. I’m hopeful things can and will change for the better for the 1st time in quite a while. Reading others take on things and what they’re going through is also helpful. Thanks to all of you for sharing.

It worked perfectly fine for me. Did you try to download it from Vimeo?

little late for a good reply but although I personally find reading to be an extremely difficult task, I didn’t see anywhere in the article where it explains that ADHD doesn’t necessarily cause people to have high IQ’s. What I see as being stated is “ADHD does not define your intelligence or capability. High IQ and ADHD are not mutually exclusive.” which if I’m comprehending correctly myself means that they aren’t factors in regards to the other. or rather, it’s possible to have both high IQ and ADHD, or that having ADHD limits a person’s IQ, or that it isn’t possible to have a higher IQ while experiencing adhd.

I felt the same way when I read this. This is my life story!!! Hope things worked well or continue to work out well for you. ♥️

Just let people stim. If they aren’t doing self injuries behavior then it’s not a problem.

Because it’s a disability. ADHD is a neurological disorder that hinders the way we function in everyday life. It can feel like an advantage when we’re doing well, but it also frequently stops us from taking care of ourselves.

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I had to look to see if perhaps I had written this comment at one time! I’m with you on what it’ll take to get a (near) perfect planner.

I read your story. it is exactly like mine. I have always thought I was different than others, especially later in my life. I don’t feel disappointed or depressed about this, rather, the realization that I have one of the illnesses under the umbrella of ADHD I am not on any medication but I do feel as though I would benefit from trying it?
Good luck with your journey Regina.

I am 48, diagnosed only 12 months ago after suffering with a full burnout.
I’ve since undergone cognitive analytical therapy which was where I got my diagnosis.
For 47 years I felt trapped in myself, being told I was disorganised & emotional. I have been compared to ‘why can’t you be like her’ or ‘why are you not like that’ the constant putting me down & the negative comments. Even my Mum is reluctant to understand my RSD as she states I’m just blaming her somehow. I’m not! I just want my immediate family to understand this is my condition, so with a bit of understanding and insight as to how my symptoms manifest, it will make relationships better.
We’ve all spent our lives having to fit into what the rest of the world perceives as ‘normal’ maybe it’s about time they came into our world for a millisecond & try to understand we’re not just moody, crazy, immotive, withdrawn, or difficult. We just have a condition that is very much misunderstood!

The only way to get dexies is to see a shrink. If u gonna take them, take them properly. Don’t ever have too many & then let yourself go without coz that’s really really not good for you.

yes. sounds like me and I am diagnosed.

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One great benefit it’s that my morning exercise is burning core fat. And it’s working! I started losing 1 lb per week, and now it’s at 1.5 lbs per week. And an interesting dude effect is that I rarely feel like having between-meal snacks any more! Eating on a fairly strict schedule also results in new more thinking about food any more, especially with eating because of stress or boredom.

Note: the pre-breakfast workouts are a free side benefit…burning extra core fat on top of my testing. Oh, and the coffee & green tea (or matcha) are helping with my general health and I’m having fun experimenting at the same time. (I have osteoarthritis and those are helping reduce inflammation while helping my teeth, joints, and biogut.)
Tip: don’t add ANY dairy to coffee…it negates nearly all of the benefits of coffee.

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I relate to your article,I just broke with my girlfriend due to adhd

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Hi Troy – I don’t know what country you live in. I’ve never heard of needing character references for ADHD stimulant meds. That just (potentially) causes yet another barrier to help and possibly shame and unnecessary conflict/tension. I’m really sorry that is how things are where you live. I’m Canada, your family doctor can prescribe stimulant meds – or you can get them from a psychiatrist. I wish there weren’t additional barriers for you to get the help and support you need and deserve.
There’s an app called Dubbii, created by a couple where the wife has ADHD. It may help as you don’t have to create the lists, you just tick a box next to tasks you want to build into your day. The brain loves patterns and routines. And it gets easier when you consistently have one. Then you can also add additional tasks to ones you’re already doing (ex: start slow – wash the dishes when that becomes routine, add in – wipe down the counter. When that’s routine – add out away the dishes). They ought back ok each other as you build routine and expand your window of tolerance.
I wish you all the best.

I have no affiliations with the Dubbi app, I just discovered it myself and thought I’d share.

Strategies for the Partner With ADHD
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Nice to hear success stories.

Thank you for articulating this so clearly. I agree with you on this and it is a very important point.

“Don’t be a hater, use data!” I like it!

Hey Steve,
Many of us have not been officially diagnosed until later in life (46 for me), primarily because when we were kids ADD wasn’t really on the radar. Plus, I was never hyper-active, my mind was, but I had what’s known as “inattentive ADD”. So I always had to put my attention on other things, than just sitting, listening to teachers. I would write stuff, draw, look out the window, looking at the girls in class, etc. I always did well, as I could listen, while I did other stuff, and was never a discipline problem, so no one ever thought I needed any help.

So, you are likely just realizing that the issues you’ve had all your life, sound a whole lot like those of someone with ADD. What spurred me to seek a diagnosis was seeing a 60 Minutes segment, where a couple sought treatment for their son’s ADHD. In learning more about it, the father realized it sounded just like his life experience! So he sought a diagnosis, and in fact, was not surprised to discover he was ADHD. So it’s very common for middle-aged adults to realize this resonates with their lives, & get diagnosed. You should definitely look into it, it’s never too late…

Yes Rajesh, that is possible. As a professional musician, I believe that my ADD (I refuse to call it ADHD, because I am in no way hyper-active) has been an aid, as I believe my improvising skills, ability to come up with melodies, and aversion to playing songs or solos the same way, stem from ADD “symptoms”…

However, having been undiagnosed until nearly 50, I can look back and see so many times when scattered thinking sabotaged career moves that would have enabled me to both earn more money, and gain wider recognition. By the time I was diagnosed, after trying a handful of anti-depressants (to rule out depression), and various amphetamines, I’ve found that Adderall at least helps my brain waking up with the rest of me, as too often I’d wake up, but my mind felt like it would just not wake up, as well.

So, it was great to have an actual explanation as to why I could never complete projects (except at the very last minute), was disorganized, and unable to make good decisions, that I could see so clearly, in looking back, just not in the moment. And while the Adderall helped me think a little more clearly, it didn’t offer other benefits that most “regular people” feel when taking it, especially having more energy.

Thus, I still fall pray to what I’ve always called “the paralysis of will”, for it’s deeper than just not knowing what to do, or how to do it, or even putting off things we don’t want to do. In fact, my greatest frustration has been that I even put off things that I WANT to do, and enjoy doing! A good friend, also a musician, and also a psychiatrist, was also not sure why this occurred. He even said that while he normally wouldn’t work with a friend, that he’d be wiling to hlep me try to figure it out. So, of course, that was one more thing I should’ve done, but for some reason, filed it away, never to do!

And so in the 25 years or so since my diagnosis, I’ve read books, watched talks, online webinars, seen various psychiatrists & therapists, none of whom has ever helped me better deal with my ADD, beyond writing my regular prescriptions. I was a bit stunned at how many psychiatrists have been reduced to do nothing more than talking to patients, and writing prescriptions, which seemed pretty sad, even pathetic. To do so much schooling, only to sit and hand our prescriptions all day…

Oh well, good luck to all who know all too well, how our paralysis can’t be overcome with all these typical “tips”. That’s what every article or talk, concerning overcoming procrastination, paralysis, disorganization, & lack of time management all seem to do, give us the same general list of “tips”, that if we could do, would mean we don’t really have ADD…

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People will still care for people who are exceptional in their conditions. Nothing is taken away apart from the sense that there is something “wrong” with you. A belief system that expands on the notion that nothing is a waste in this universe, and reframes words that only create duality and separation, is ultimately of no use to bring relief to peoples’s suffering and it will still propagate it. It’s good to acknowledge our exceptionalities so we can learn more about ourselves and how we by default interact with the world, and how symbiotically the world and us evolve. The challenges that one faces when dealing with the current status quo of society will still be acknowledged, but maybe the status quo may change with the reframing of your exceptionality and the pressure you feel to perform as “normal” person may be lifted in result. Behaviours have a wide spectrum, and all will be taken into consideration.

So I just noticed that was written 4 years ago. My darn ADHD, I need to pay more attention! LoL. But maybe my response can be helpful to others. Wonder if they ever got married 🤔

I have ADHD and recently found my other half, at 42! I was only diagnosed about 4 years ago. Previously I didn’t know why my relationships were so challenging and I seemed like a “crazy person” at times. But I’ve learned, and am still learning, so much. Medication and therapy and reading about the condition all help a lot. It sounds like you really love him, which tells me he also must really love you, and if you’re willing to work on the relationship and he’s willing to work on managing his ADHD symptoms than I definitely think you both can make it, together! That’s what my love and I are doing. We’ve been together 4 months now, which doesn’t seem like a long time, but due to certain circumstances it feels more like 5 years! These challenges have tested our relationship and brought out the worst in my ADHD, but through it all he’s been nothing but kind and loving and patient. I’ve never experienced this from anyone I’ve been with in the past so I know he’s definitely the one! All that being said it makes me want to work on myself even more because he deserves to have the best of me, esp since he’s put up with the worst of me. I’m sure you’re boyfriend will/does feel the same way. Maybe it would be good to actually talk about all this with him. If you struggle with talking about those feelings I would even recommend a relationship therapist. Sometimes it helps to have a third/neutral party involved. Our relationship is going great but I still want us to see someone bc I want to make sure it stays great. I know my ADHD is going to cause challenges no matter how well I manage it and unfortunately will reel it’s ugly head from time to time. But we’re moving in together in 3 weeks and both of us couldn’t be happier! I wish you the best, whatever you ultimately decide 💞

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I still am unable to get ANY of the webinars to play.,What am I supposed to do?

You are not alone! I’d be lying if I did not admit to the same kind of issues, and particularly in my mid 40’s & 50’s.

You are not alone! I’d be lying if I did not admit to the same kind of issues, and particularly in my mid 40’s & 50’s.

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I love my husband for who he is with or without ADHD. He’s not only a devoted husband, but he’s also a wonderful human being. It is quite surprising for me to read the comments on how some people have a terrible experience with their ADHD partners. For those who have a relationship with ADHD, I wanted you to know that this condition doesn’t say anything about your partner’s character. If your ADHD is also a walking red flag and consciously hurts you repeatedly, leave them. They had no intentions of building a healthy life and loving relationship with you. I wish you all nothing but a happy and successful relationship.

I agree

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Physical contact is major. I’m drained from being touch deprived. It takes everything in my willpower to ignore wistfulness in the middle of sitting down to work at my desk in my home office. Body double on camera definitely helps get through it. I do it in small chunks, like 30 minutes, 45 minutes, 20 minute sessions in one day. When available! I’ll check out those other online resources folks mentioned in the comments. Reading about your child in your lap made me cry. She is so very, very fortunate to have you as her parent. Bless you.

It’s not about how many things you tried or not yet. It’s about how long you can keep up with these habits. Just find the one that makes you feel better and seems working, then keep up with it for a long period of time. Come one, one month? It isn’t even enough for developing habit.

Try again, this time, at least, for 6 months. Come back and tell us the results 🙂

You got it! Good luck.

P.S: I also might have ADHD, but I haven’t been officially diagnosed tho.

We don’t need positivity nor pseudoscience. It has been proven time and again ADHD is a disorder, a deficit, a disability. Some lucky ones are creative or intelligent AS WELL as having ADHD. The clinical construct is completely dissasociated from those “benefits”. And previous poster clearly said while this fake positivity is DAMAGING. No, we don’t need fake positivity. We need to combat it.

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